Hi, My name is Tara.
I was a Coach’s Wife.
Just recently my husband has changed professions. Rather he quit coaching and is teaching.(He has always taught school of course, but now he is “just an English teacher”)
We have been married for almost 17 years and I have been in each of the situations below.
Read on sweet coach’s wife and be encouraged. I didn’t ever really do all of these at once. I don’t have a big enough plate for that!!
These are the things that I have learned the hard way 😉
1. He wants to be with you as much as you want him to be home.
2. This is the way he can provide for his family.
3. He needs your support.
4. Surround yourself only with people who are supportive of his job because if you are not, you will begin to resent him.
5. Take your children (if you have them) to as many games as you possibly can. Sit where he can see you when he looks up to see you, watch his face beam with appreciation and love. Being there for the “Friday Night Lights” can be really fun.
6. Take meals to him on the weekends when he says is a good time. (If they let ya do that sort of thing.) Even 5 minutes of seeing him will refresh your heart and his.
7. Try not to complain about his job to others. He is doing all he can to enable you to stay home. (That was my situation as I was home- schooling our children)
8. Send sweet notes with his meals.
9. Remember, you married a coach. (Even if you didn’t, it is his job now.) 🙂
10. Don’t hold a grudge because he is doing his job. Try to encourage him by saying things like, “Honey, (sugar, baby whatever you call him. haha) I love the fact that you are working so hard for us. It is hard but I support you.”
11. Get a shirt with your last name on the back for you and your little ones. Craft stores often have sales so you can get an inexpensive one and do one yourself. I embroidered one for each of the girls but can’t find the photos! 😦 If you don’t have those options, wear the school colors.
12. Be specific with what you need from him. If you don’t calmly tell him what you need, he doesn’t know because he is so tired.
13. You are a team. Have fun 🙂
My thoughts while he was coaching were very self-centered. “What about me?” “Why am I alone?” “Why does he get to have all of the fun?” He told me later that he wished I had been more supportive. (I was supportive, but the whole grumbling, ranting, wife thing didn’t do anything to help him or my situation. It doesn’t build up anyone!)
Truth is, you are alone for this season. This is life and you have to deal with it. Try to make it easier by being positive.
This is a reflection on my past.
I am hoping and praying you learn from my mistakes 🙂
Blessings on your journey friends.
Young Family 5