Are there times when in the distance, you hear someone calling your name? Are you actually listening? Do you care?
Then you realize the person is right next to you, repeating your name and calling you. “MOM! MOM! MOM! Can you hear me? I am talking to you. MOM?!”. Is there a frustration that builds as they pull you from your own blissful world of silence?
Being a stay at home mom can be a challenge at times. There is a constant barrage of questions and answers that trickle in through the calm. Constant redirection and correction are your tools. Little rears, little noses and little hands that all need attention NOW!
Little lips are kissing my arm like one of those water pecking birds.
I am in the midst of doing some chore. The other two are speaking as they increase the decibel level by 10 so that they can be louder than the other to get my attention. The garden needs to be watered. Five piles of semi folded laundry are scattered in the living room. Dinner is in the oven and the dishwasher is in over drive.
Then someone announces, “The dog just rolled in horse poo mom and she wants to come in!”
“NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!! DON’T LET HER IN!!!”
“Hi Angel.” (In a very gushy talking to the dog voice. Those who have dogs, know what I am talking about!)
“OUT! OUT! OUT!”
“Mom, she wanted to say hi.”
“She can say hi from the door next time.”
(True story) 🙂
Do you feel like you just can’t listen anymore because you are so frustrated with life going on all around you?
Do you feel like Fly Paper?
Turn this situation around to yourself. Imagine you are with a friend or a spouse having lunch or a coffee. You are chatting away only to realize they did not hear a word you said. Shock and dismay are pretty common reactions here. Feeling unimportant to them is another.
I really like to speak and be heard. I really like to listen. I have to remember though, that even though my children are little, they are still little people. They do need to be heard. I am training them by my actions and reactions how to be adult listeners.
Am I showing them that is ok not to listen while someone is speaking to them?
Am I making them feel special, because I am taking time from my busy day to demonstrate the same love that I want to be showered with?
There is a great responsibility before us as we raise children to be good listeners.
Lend your ear today. Listen to what the little people are saying. 🙂
Lord, let me be a good example to my children today. Guide me as I teach and instruct them in Your ways. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
James 1:19-20 NIV “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”