‘Egg’cellent gift

Eggstraordinary

I had spent my grocery money for the week and I was egg rationing until Friday to get some more. I was down to 3. 🙂 

What would you have done?

A. Cry

B. Pray

C. Wait until the next week’s cash to flow in.

D. Ration

E. Go buy more eggs even though you didn’t have cash.

F. B, C and D

Well I did F.  We have a pretty tight budget so I just waited, prayed and rationed. I never thought I would get eggs delivered!  My husband came home from work with 3 dozen eggs today not knowing that we were in an egg drought. So I thought it was pretty cool that God heard my not really request, He saw that I was honoring my husband by not using the debit card to buy anything until next week and now we have been given eggs. Pretty stinkin cool!!

Thank You for always providing our needs!

Philippians 4:1

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the family nobody wanted. A must read book!

The Family Nobody Wanted

the family nobody wanted

My cousin sent me this book as we have adopted 3 children. I didn’t read it right away because just the title alone is sad to me. As we have gone through each adoption, we have learned that nothing is EVER the same. 🙂 You are probably saying some smarty pants comment right now like “duh” or “seriously?” but you never know what to expect with adoption. Heartache and love go hand in hand.

Life changes so differently for each side of the family. This book made me laugh, cry, doubt, and lean more on God. He truly is the one who makes all things happen in His time.

I highly recommend this book to those whose hearts are blessed by adoption, to those considering adoption or those who work with foster care children. Rather, any person who loves should read this!

Have a wonderful day.

Tara

Fly Paper Mama

Are there times when in the distance, you hear someone calling your name? Are you actually listening?  Do you care?

Then you realize the person is right next to you, repeating your name and calling you. MOM! MOM! MOM! Can you hear me? I am talking to you. MOM?!”. Is there a frustration that builds as they pull you from your own blissful world of silence?

Being a stay at home mom can be a challenge at times. There is a constant barrage of questions and answers that trickle in through the calm. Constant redirection and correction are your tools. Little rears, little noses and little hands that all need attention NOW!

Little lips are kissing my arm like one of those water pecking birds.

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I am in the midst of doing some chore. The other two are speaking as they increase the decibel level by 10 so that they can be louder than the other to get my attention. The garden needs to be watered. Five piles of semi folded laundry are scattered in the living room. Dinner is in the oven and the dishwasher is in over drive.

Then someone announces, “The dog just rolled in horse poo mom and she wants to come in!”  

“NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!! DON’T LET HER IN!!!”

“Hi Angel.” (In a very gushy talking to the dog voice. Those who have dogs, know what I am talking about!)

“OUT! OUT! OUT!”

“Mom, she wanted to say hi.”

“She can say hi from the door next time.”

(True story) 🙂

Do you feel like you just can’t listen anymore because you are so frustrated with life going on all around you?

Do you feel like Fly Paper?

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Turn this situation around to yourself.  Imagine you are with a friend or a spouse having lunch or a coffee.  You are chatting away only to realize they did not hear a word you said.  Shock and dismay are pretty common reactions here. Feeling unimportant to them is another.

I really like to speak and be heard. I really like to listen. I have to remember though, that even though my children are little, they are still little people. They do need to be heard. I am training them by my actions and reactions how to be adult listeners.

Am I showing them that is ok not to listen while someone is speaking to them?

OR

Am I making them feel special, because I am taking time from my busy day to demonstrate the same love that I want to be showered with?

There is a great responsibility before us as we raise children to be good listeners.

Lend your ear today.  Listen to what the little people are saying. 🙂

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Lord, let me be a good example to my children today. Guide me as I teach and instruct them in Your ways. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

 James 1:19-20 NIV “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”

Spicy!

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Jack in the box

I feel like that guy sometimes! Especially when I am trying to read my Bible. The kids are pulling open my lid by arguing, fighting, whining until I have to go be the referee to break up their “Smack Down” going on in the living room!!!

Right now I guess I am in a season. Mothering small children is a season. They aren’t always going to be small. Sometimes as a parent or caregiver you don’t know which way is up so you muddle around waiting for direction.
As I was praying the other day, I came to the conclusion that this is a time for trusting. This is a season for resting in God. This is like no other and when it is gone it can never be reclaimed.

I look at each child as a “season”ing in my life. A way that God is allowing me to grow and change and become more like Him. I have 4 main seasonings including my DH. They all start with the letter “C”.

Cilantro, Curry, Cayenne and Chili. Whoowee!   

God has blessed me with some serious fire power! 🙂 He has given me some serious action in my house and I pray that I will help them learn how to use the gifts that God has given to make their lives a pleasing aroma to Him.  My prayer was this, “God, help me to make these ‘seasonings’ into an aroma that is pleasing to You. May our mixed soup pot of seasonings waft to those around us to be a blessing to others. Please help me to appreciate your life changing spices and help me to show them the appropriate way to use their gifts as You have placed them in my life.”

I polled my DH and a few friends to see what “C” Herb or spice I was and here is the list in no particular order:
Chili
Chamomile
Cinnamon

What are you? Are you pleasing to those around you? Am I?
Be spicy my friends!

Gentle correction or gettin’ knocked on your rear?

Do you ever get that gentle correction from the Lord? Or do you just get that earth-shaking wake up call that knocks you on your rear letting you know you are being disobedient.  God uses whatever He chooses. It is not always a disobedience that He is correcting, but it may be that I am not spending enough time in the Word so He can speak to me. Sometimes He uses those, “AHA!” moments. Sometimes He does use illness. Sometimes He uses other people to let me know that I am falling short.  Sometimes He speaks directly to my heart.   This is what I got today…

Not in these words exactly but the Lord impressed this on my heart. “Tara, you sure are sick.  In the last month you have been in severe pain with a ruptured ovarian cyst and you now have the flu.  I am trying to get your attention here.”  “Yes Lord! I am listening.” As I lay on my bed He truly spoke to my heart and said, “I miss you dear one. Where have you been? You don’t even know where your bible is do you?”  UUUUUMMM well since you can’t lie to God, I said, “No, Lord I sure don’t! I am so sorry, please forgive me.

Wonderfully forgiven I sit here typing.  Then He let me know that I need to write about this. So here it is.  It doesn’t matter what situation you are in always make time for God. While you are on your back hacking up a lung, spend some time in prayer.

When needy children who are clawing and pawing at you surround you, read them a verse from the Bible.  (Not the rain down fire and brimstone people!) Pray a blessing of peace over them.  God’s word never returns void as it says in Isaiah 55:11 NLT “It is the same with my word. I send it out, and it always produces fruit. It will accomplish all I want it to, and it will prosper everywhere I send it.”

God has been trying to get my attention. It seems rather painful right now, but it could have been worse.  The CT scan shows no more cysts. My flu will eventually go away.  My husband and dad have been super heroes helping me.

God provides.

He never leaves us. He is, He was and Always will be. He is the provider. He is the Rock. He is everything to me.  He heals all my ills, affords me with great care. He never leaves me with a burden I can’t bear.  I am never alone. He is always near. He will never stop bending to me His listening ear. Unfaithful am I to share this truth.  May I be more like your beloved Ruth.

Forsooth. Gotta love that word!!! I wanted to use it in my poem, but, was unable to. I Used it in a random sentence.  🙂

Any way. Listen to the Lord He is pretty awesome!

A sticky situation.

This morning my three-year-old was sitting ever so quietly on the floor looking at some books. I stepped outside to hang up a wet floor mat.  When I returned I sat at the computer as I was listening to an amazing audio story I had just found through a fellow blogger. (See next post.)

I was listening intently as I heard her say, “Mommy, this is so sticky!”  Her pudgy little finger was stuck inside a blob of purple goo that was once a glue stick.  I asked her if she knew she wasn’t supposed to be playing with the glue, (All the while wondering where she got the glue because I thought they were all put up.) and she told me yes it was wrong.

So here is the lesson. 🙂 You had to know this was coming! Right? 

Don’t put your hands in other peoples business!~  Or as I tell the kids, “If it isn’t yours, don’t touch it.”  

When we put ourselves into a sticky situation, we often get involved in a mess that is not ours.  We need to ask God for wisdom before we try to fix a situation that isn’t ours to try to repair.  Maybe they (or we) are in the situation because of our foolishness and God is trying to teach us something valuable.

We can avoid sticking our fingers in a glue stick if we “Seek the throne, before we make someone’s problem our own.” Tara Young

Avoid that sticky situation today friends! 🙂

Keepin’ the fire burnin’

Our family has undergone a lot of change in the last year and half.  We adopted. Our car died along the road last Christmas and we had to purchase another vehicle. God gave us the money to pay it off.  We put our house on the market. (with false expectations on my part that it would sell in one week! It took less than 80) My husband was offered a job. Quit his job. Took a huge pay cut.  We sold our house. Packed our house. Moved our family across town to live with my parents for an undetermined amount of time. We put a bid on some property only to find out it had a well that belongs to someone else for 99 years and about 4 acres of the 10 has easements!

So, date night? Pffft!  We had one in June as we celebrated our 16 year anniversary. 🙂

That is good considering but you know it isn’t what it should be.

Sammy asked my mom to watch the girls and we had our first date the other night when we went out for one of our favorite foods! Indian! We had a wonderful time together and we talked about life in Africa where we lived and learned to cook and love Indian food. We talked about life now as we are walking an a path entirely dependent upon the Lord which is where we should always be!

Just like the fire in the picture, we need to keep the fire going with our friendships, our mates and especially God. Without Him we are nothing.

Relationships take time.

It took forever to get this fire going this morning!  Kindling, paper, more kindling! It didn’t just start right up. Building a good fire takes time and patience. (Not gasoline people!)

Take the time today to rekindle your old flame with your spouse. Make a phone call to someone who is on your heart. Cry out to the Maker of Heaven and Earth and ask Him to restart the flame in your heart.  Live in the warmth His love brings!  Stay warm my friends!

Take a breath. Pray. Be a peacemaker.

Instead of yelling, I have prayed. Instead of letting my kids fight, we have prayed. Instead of letting frustrations get the best of us, we have prayed. Amazing what prayer can do! Amazing how many times we are praying instead of reacting too! “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.” Proverbs 15:1 NLT
“A prayer of one overwhelmed with trouble, pouring out problems before the L LORD, hear my prayer! Listen to my plea!”  Psalm 102:1 NLT
“He will listen to the prayers of the destitute. He will not reject their pleas.”  Psalm 102:17 nlt

In this tumultuous time of change, my temper has flared quite a lot.  My husband is so wise. He said, “Stop and pray before you react.”  I know this fact. I believe that the Lord answers prayer. Yet my sinful life overwhelms the truth.

I have to stop and pray so that I teach my children to do what is right instead of overreacting because of my circumstances.

Take a breath.  Pray.  Be a peacemaker.

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.”  Matthew 5:9

Takin’ me some supplements!

 

As I spent time reading my Bible today I laughed out loud. The kids were having a crazy time at the breakfast table and I had gotten up early to read my bible. I told myself that I was not getting up until I was done with my Bible study!

After a recent conversation with my 10-year-old where I had confessed to her that the “day” I was the nicest was the only day that I read my bible that week. She looked at me in all seriousness and said, “Bible study? Who knew?” Well that just solidified that my time without God had not gone unnoticed last week!

I spent time reading a couple of passages and really began to focus on one passage in particular.

Verse 5 struck me because as many of us have deficiencies in our diets, we are always told we need to take a supplement of some sort. Vitamin D, fish oil, and a really good multivitamin are a few I have been told to take.

Here was a biblical supplement list from 1 Peter 1:3-10 ESV

 

Take some faith with virtue.
Then you need some virtue with knowledge.
Add knowledge with self-control.
Self-control is paired with steadfastness.
On top of that, you need steadfastness with godliness.
For good measure you should also have godliness with brotherly affection.
The last important set is brotherly affection with love.

I am of course adding the humor here but it goes on to say that if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of the Lord.

So. What are we doing to supplement our spiritual walk?

Spending time in the Word anyone?

Be blessed friends and get your supplement daily!!!

 

 

Nearly 19 years ago

Nearly 19 years ago, I was walking in the dark

Nearly 19 years ago, I was living, walls so stark.

Nearly 19 years ago, I was not walking in the light

Nearly 19 years ago, I was walking in my might.

 

Nearly 19 years ago, I lived a life so wild.

Nearly 19 years ago, I found myself with child

Nearly 19 years ago, I chose to take your life from you

Nearly 19 years ago, I still wonder where time flew.

 

Now 19 years later, I still grieve my loss.

Now 19 years later, my life is not all dross

Now 19 years later, three other souls are with you on that side.

Now 19 years later, sorrow spills a salty tide.

 

Now 19 years later, my tears once a year do fall

Now 19 years later, I have given Him my all

Now 19 years later, I am grateful He forgives

Now 19 years later, in my heart He loves and lives.

 

This is a very tender subject for me. Tonight my husband got a phone call about a friend and his wife ready to deliver a baby. I was reminded of my choice and that I will never have a biological child. That time has past because of medical reasons, but this I do know, He is in control at all times. Please know that there are many who have suffered silently with grief. Don’t continue. Ask for help from someone in your church or find a godly counselor to reach out to. Call a friend and ask for help. Don’t stay locked away in your sorrow or depression! You are loved. You are forgiven. You are precious to the One who created you!

 Thank you Lord for redeeming me and loving me.